--- product_id: 143565965 title: "Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy" price: "110.71 DT" currency: TND in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.tn/products/143565965-try-softer-a-fresh-approach-to-move-us-out-anxiety store_origin: TN region: Tunisia --- # Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy **Price:** 110.71 DT **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy - **How much does it cost?** 110.71 DT with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.tn](https://www.desertcart.tn/products/143565965-try-softer-a-fresh-approach-to-move-us-out-anxiety) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description Over 100,000 copies sold! In the wise and soulful tradition of teachers like Shauna Niequist and Brene Brown, therapist Aundi Kolber debuts with Try Softer™️ , helping us align our mind, body, and soul to live the life God created for us. In a world that preaches a "try harder" gospel―just keep going, keep hustling, keep pretending we're all fine―we're left exhausted, overwhelmed, and so numb to our lives. If we're honest, we've been overfunctioning for so long, we can't even imagine another way. How else will things get done? How else will we survive? It doesn't have to be this way. Aundi Kolber believes that we don't have to white-knuckle our way through life. In her debut book, Try Softer™️ , she'll show us how God specifically designed our bodies and minds to work together to process our stories and work through obstacles. Through the latest psychology, practical clinical exercises, and her own personal story, Aundi equips and empowers us to connect us to our truest self and truly live. This is the "try softer" life. In Try Softer™️ , you'll learn how to: Know and set emotional and relational boundaries Make sense of the difficult experiences you've had Identify your attachment style―and how that affects your relationships today Move through emotions rather than get stuck by them Grow in self-compassion and talk back to your inner critic Trying softer is sacred work. And while it won't be perfect or easy, it will be worth it. Because this is what we were made for: a living, breathing, moving, feeling, connected, beautifully incarnational life. Review: A Must Read - This Book Ushers in Hope + Healing - I am so grateful to see more and more conversations (and BOOKS!) taking place in the faith community regarding mental health, trauma, therapy, etc. Try Softer fills a much-needed gap, and it does not disappoint! As someone who has dealt with the trauma of losing a child, who has spent over a decade as military spouse in a world at war, who has uncovered childhood trauma, and who has been on my own healing journey -- this book felt like a long-lost friend. It was like an open-door invitation into healing and hope with author Aundi Kolber standing there with her arms open wide ready to receive you gently. Ultimately, the author extends to us what our Heavenly Father offers. Kolber interweaves some of her own personal stories and struggles as well as those of her clients (she’s a therapist), but this book really differentiates itself by the wealth of clinical information and expertise Kolber shares. For someone who loves stories and loves information, this book has both! This book really helped usher in God’s compassion and gentleness into my life and helped me relinquish areas of captivity by finding freedom and rest in “trying softer.” There are treasures in this book that have taken me over a decade to learn as well as new ones I’ve never before uncovered. Kolber’s knowledge, wisdom, relatability, and the inclusion of practical tools were immensely helpful. I have already returned to it a handful of times since finishing and will continue to use it as a resource in my own life. If you’re a fan of Brene Brown (but want something more Christ-centerd), if you’re ready to do some “soul work” as I like to call it, if you’re tired from the exhaustion of striving, if you have a loud inner critic, I highly recommend you grab this and start reading. While I read through it quickly, you may want to move slowly through it if you’re new to some of the concepts Kolber writes about. She does an excellent job articulating and explaining the information but some areas by nature may weigh heavy on you. I think you’ll also find the reflective questions helpful in absorbing and finding transformation as you read like I did. Thank you Aundi Kolber for sharing this work with the world! I know the world is going to be a better place as people learn to “try softer” after reading your book. Here’s one of my favorite quotes: “Every sorrow we’ve grieved, every fear we’ve felt, every trauma and all the pain we’ve lived through—it’s all valid, and it all matters. More significantly, the hard things that cracked us open have the potential to create space for deeper joy and resilience. As we try softer with ourselves by attending to and listening to our bodies and emotions, we become vast like the Grand Canyon, because our ability to hold the full experience of our humanity increases.” Review: Beautiful and uplifting - This is a life changing book. Anyone on a journey of healing or any counselor/mental health professional should consider this as an excellent resource for a faith-based practice. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #5,307 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #17 in Healing #43 in Christian Self Help #214 in Christian Spiritual Growth (Books) | | Customer Reviews | 4.8 out of 5 stars 2,379 Reviews | ## Images ![Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81vc1H8EX6L.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ A Must Read - This Book Ushers in Hope + Healing *by K***P on January 10, 2020* I am so grateful to see more and more conversations (and BOOKS!) taking place in the faith community regarding mental health, trauma, therapy, etc. Try Softer fills a much-needed gap, and it does not disappoint! As someone who has dealt with the trauma of losing a child, who has spent over a decade as military spouse in a world at war, who has uncovered childhood trauma, and who has been on my own healing journey -- this book felt like a long-lost friend. It was like an open-door invitation into healing and hope with author Aundi Kolber standing there with her arms open wide ready to receive you gently. Ultimately, the author extends to us what our Heavenly Father offers. Kolber interweaves some of her own personal stories and struggles as well as those of her clients (she’s a therapist), but this book really differentiates itself by the wealth of clinical information and expertise Kolber shares. For someone who loves stories and loves information, this book has both! This book really helped usher in God’s compassion and gentleness into my life and helped me relinquish areas of captivity by finding freedom and rest in “trying softer.” There are treasures in this book that have taken me over a decade to learn as well as new ones I’ve never before uncovered. Kolber’s knowledge, wisdom, relatability, and the inclusion of practical tools were immensely helpful. I have already returned to it a handful of times since finishing and will continue to use it as a resource in my own life. If you’re a fan of Brene Brown (but want something more Christ-centerd), if you’re ready to do some “soul work” as I like to call it, if you’re tired from the exhaustion of striving, if you have a loud inner critic, I highly recommend you grab this and start reading. While I read through it quickly, you may want to move slowly through it if you’re new to some of the concepts Kolber writes about. She does an excellent job articulating and explaining the information but some areas by nature may weigh heavy on you. I think you’ll also find the reflective questions helpful in absorbing and finding transformation as you read like I did. Thank you Aundi Kolber for sharing this work with the world! I know the world is going to be a better place as people learn to “try softer” after reading your book. Here’s one of my favorite quotes: “Every sorrow we’ve grieved, every fear we’ve felt, every trauma and all the pain we’ve lived through—it’s all valid, and it all matters. More significantly, the hard things that cracked us open have the potential to create space for deeper joy and resilience. As we try softer with ourselves by attending to and listening to our bodies and emotions, we become vast like the Grand Canyon, because our ability to hold the full experience of our humanity increases.” ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Beautiful and uplifting *by G***M on April 14, 2026* This is a life changing book. Anyone on a journey of healing or any counselor/mental health professional should consider this as an excellent resource for a faith-based practice. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Like water for your soul. *by S***R on December 9, 2020* If I could recommend a how-to book for life, this would be it. This is a book about listening to our own body, setting boundaries, processing the hard things that happen to us, and developing self-compassion. Raised with implicit and explicit messages to 'try harder' my entire life, this work comes to me at a time when I was trying harder in every area of my life. Trying harder with my faith. Trying harder with my body to whip her into shape. Trying harder with my self-compassion, which literally does.not.even.make.sense. Full of practical exercises and timeless wisdom that brings in anything from therapeutic techniques to neuroscience to breath work, I found this book to be more helpful than a lifetime of Sunday of sermons and four degrees (including nursing school) in terms of how to actually LIVE an integrated, healthy, wholehearted life. If the techniques and exercises inside are the 'how' of what it means to try softer, then the radical ideas of self-hospitality (my understanding of one of the big ideas of the book) are the 'what and why' and combined they have created a seismic shift in my soul that I have needed for a very long time. At war with myself for many years, I have been on a journey to unlearn the habits that had me trying harder, but making no progress. (Think 'emotional treadmill' and you will get a picture of a girl putting in SO MUCH effort, but really getting nowhere.) This book is everything I wish I had after my divorce. It's everything I think I should have learned after a lifetime in church. It's science and faith, practicality and wonder all wrapped up in one. It's the work of heart of a woman who is fiercely soft, if those two words can belong together. I am undone in the best possible ways reading and re-reading it. I have purchased 7 copies of this book for Christmas gifts and can say in 37 years of life, I have never (ever) done that before, but that is how much I believe in the message of this book. For anyone who didn't know that try and softer were two words that could belong together, this book is your invitation to heal the most important relationship in your life: the one you have with yourself. Thank you, Aundi. I do not know you, but my life is changed because you wrote this book. Writing a review seems like such a small token of thanks, but I mean these words with all my heart. ## Frequently Bought Together - Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy - The Try Softer Guided Journey: A Soulful Companion to Healing - Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.tn/products/143565965-try-softer-a-fresh-approach-to-move-us-out-anxiety](https://www.desertcart.tn/products/143565965-try-softer-a-fresh-approach-to-move-us-out-anxiety) --- *Product available on Desertcart Tunisia* *Store origin: TN* *Last updated: 2026-07-15*