How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You Paperback – September 22, 1997

There is a pathetically small selection of books for those who just want a regular dating life and aren't focused on either extreme of picking up random people for shallow sex, or getting married and wanting all kinds of romance.This is one of those hard to find books. I know some of the "techniques" as from all kinds of self-help and psychology, and NLP. But put in relevant context. Many "techniques" are not so much techniques as focuses or lessons, or experiments. Such as in Gestalt psychology where you experiment with actions or cognitions that are ego-alien and potentially expansive.She doesn't focus on any one thing as the special technique that will make it all happen. And it is all not as manipulative as the title sounds. It is more playing into how people naturally work.Unlike all those pick-up books where they think people are too dumb to know when they are being manipulated. I had a friend once who could talk to anyone and get any woman he wanted. He never used a pick-up line other than "hi" and did not play specific games. What he had was a positivity and tact with others and the ability to play along with however the other person was acting and bring them up.So a book like this should not be intended to fill your head with fake actions that you pull out of your pocket at the right time, but a map of how to begin to learn what works for the person in their given situation.More specifically about the book, it has tremendously less fluff language than her other books that seem to be just as collection of boring anecdotes about her experiences and some description of a "technique" that's hard to follow, all in cheesy language. This book is much much more structured and the anecdotes are shorter and seem much more relevant.I also want to add some of my skepticism toward self-help, in that the information in this book is very difficult to learn and implement in the spontaneity of interaction, without some sort of mentor.

A very well written book that explains exactly what goes on when one falls in love, and then how to manipulate the circumstances by doing the "right things" to maximize your chances. Impressively, the book is not written in a manner that's gender specific, and in addition provides some keen insights into how the opposite gender works. That said, the male insight is a little over generalized (it was a female author), but it's still quite applicable.For instance, the section on "bedroom eyes" explains that all things being equal, the person with the dilated pupils is more attractive; the author then sites a study showing this to be the case, then explains the psychological reasons why this matters. Then, to follow up, she provides tricks to artificially dilate your own pupils during a conversation, making you subconsciously more attractive to the other person.In the section on conversation, she talks about various stages of communication people go through as their relationship grows. By listening for particulars and echoing them back in verbiage from a closer context of familiarity, it is possible to accelerate the feeling of intimacy.Very practical and interesting advice, whether you want to click with someone new or enhance the relationship you already have.

I liked this book and I will have to reread it a couple of times to fully understand and remember the good stuff. I especially like how it is based on proper research. Not just one person's say so. Some of it you might already know. Some of it will be new and surprising.Some people have said it makes you act fake and not like yourself. That's a good thing! If you are reading this, you need advice on both what to do, and what NOT to do, since you're obviously not doing the right things. And if NOT giving advice straight away to their problems, or talking about feelings, is what is necessary, then amke a change and do it dammit. Have some self control and make a slight change in your own behaviour. You'll open your own mind, and you won't think it's chainging yourself after you do it a few times. Besides, if it helps you meet some good people, both men and women, then what's bad about it?For me, the single thing which stands out is asking a single question to women- How do you FEEL about that? The ladies love to talk about feelings and it NEVER fails to get a response and always helps keep the conversation going.Overall a good and useful read, if only for the single tip above.

I was browsing through Barnes and Noble one day and truly accidentally found this book. Well, maybe the book found me! After glancing over my shoulders, I discreetly pulled it off the shelf and started browsing through it. After only a couple of minutes I knew I had to have this book! I pulled Amazon up on my phone and found it considerably cheaper! I downloaded it and read the book cover-to-cover over the weekend. I couldn't put it down. The book reads like a conversation from the author. She shares her advice like she was sitting in your living room over girl talk. Now, to go out there and find a well-deserving and unsuspecting man to try all thesewonderful tips on!

What I like about this book is the emphasis and teachings about empathy. it will teach you how to be a better partner. It teaches eye contact, listening, empathy, understanding. All things that should teach you how to engage with someone better. But true love isn't about making people fall in love with you.

This text breaks down the hunt into hunter and quarry, so if you like to read self help books that clearly state the game, the target and the weapon to use, this book may answer your needs. Written diversely to reach either sex, the tools are expanded to share examples, and outcomes... pretty good for an old book that teaches basic communication skills that can be used in all settings of interpersonal relationships of all kinds; intimate and business. Add this one Mr. Man or Ms. Woman to your Tool Box and you will wear it out.