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The Prequel to Games People Play
Transactional Analysis in Psychotherapy © 1961 (TAinP) ****½ + Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis. © 1964 (GPP) ****¾ + Scripts People Live: Transactional Analysis of Life Scripts © 1974 (SPL) *****All three of these books have been around for a long time, and all three are well worth reading. I was persuaded to review them together by the first sentence in the preface of GPP: "This book is primarily designed to be a sequel to my book Transactional Analysis in Psychotherapy , but has been planned so that it can be read and understood independently." In the years between writing them, it is obvious that Dr. Berne gained valuable experience in one or (more likely) both TA and writing. I am sure I would have found TAinP much tougher going had I not read GPP first, and I recommend you, too, read them in reverse order. You might even consider reading Claude Steiner's SPL first; Dr. Steiner has surpassed even his mentor, Dr. Berne, in making the concepts of TA accessible to the lay reader.You don't have to have serious emotional problems, or have a friend or loved one who does, to benefit from reading these books; they will help you to understand yourself and others better. They will also teach you to recognize the games salespeople try to play with you, so that you can avoid becoming a victim thereof. And if you or a friend or loved one is contemplating psychotherapy or in need thereof, these books can help in choosing a therapist who will go for the cure rather than the maintenance of the problem. The value of making the right choice can hardly be overstated. It is SO much better to learn to become an ex-neurotic or ex-psychotic than to learn to be a better neurotic or a better psychotic!Dr. Berne found that a person is almost always in one of three ego states, which he called Parent, Adult, and Child. Dr. Berne deliberately chose familiar names, instead of jargon such as superego, id, exteropsyche, archaeopsyche, etc. As Dr. Steiner put it, "He rejected the usual psychiatric practice of using one language in speaking with people and another in speaking with psychiatric colleagues. As he developed the new concepts of his theory, he used, in every instance, words which were immediately understandable to most people."* Dr. Berne and his students believed in demystifying patients and the general public, rather than snowing us.Whichever ego state is awake and in control is said to be cathected. (Rarely, two or all three ego states may be partially cathected at the same time, or one or both of the others may be awake but not cathected, and when one is very deeply asleep or in a coma, probably no ego state is cathected.) Roughly speaking, the Parent is the ego state in which one nurtures or criticizes another, the Adult contemplates and processes factual information and solves problems, and the Child has fun or reacts to criticism. Each ego state is appropriate for some situations and inappropriate for others. The nurturing Parent and the critical Parent are both needed in taking care of children or invalids, but the critical Parent can `go hog wild' and become the always-inappropriate pig Parent, which concentrates on destructive, rather than constructive criticism. Irrational prejudices, such as racism and sexism, are functions of the pig Parent, as is the Puritan's `haunting fear that someone, somewhere, might be having a good time.'The Adult is responsible for using factual knowledge, reason, and intuition to solve life's problems. Everyone needs, at times, a well-functioning Adult, and virtually everyone is born with one, but one's Adult can become contaminated by one or both of the other ego states. The Child-contaminated Adult too often engages in `wishful thinking,' while the Parent-contaminated Adult typically accepts as factual the pig Parent's irrational prejudices. The pig parent may even virtually suppress the Adult with a script injunction of mindlessness such as "Don't think!"The Child is cathected when one is having fun. Enjoyment of play and of lovemaking are functions of the Child; it is the Child which makes life worth living. Sometimes the pig Parent manages to suppress the Child with a script injunction of joylessness: "Don't have fun!"* SPL, page [email protected]
C**N
Excellent text
Bought this to study for a certification exam. Excellent book that covers the topic well.
J**N
Incredibly useful!
A great and extremely useful lens into the intrapsychic. It applies a structural model to the ego, giving therapists a more organized approach to dealing with the intrapsychic (personality) than the more abstract Object Relations theorists. Additionally, the interventions on focused on immediacy in the transference relationship and are less intense (for the client and therapist) than OR therapy (which can be tiresome). I found this book invaluable and immediately useful in practice, yet not quite as useful interpersonally as Berne seems to hope. In other words, it helps client's understand the parts of their self, where those parts came from, a means to negotiate between those parts (Experiential interventions help with this), and how those parts influence behaviors, yet I find Structural Analysis Of Social Behavior a more helpful model for teaching interpersonal behavior change skills.
D**P
Helpful TA guide
Very instructive
A**R
A must read for every human being.
A great life-perspective provider. Although It does wander astray toward the end when he elaborates on his perceived connection between religion and "ethical behavior" against which there is ample proof.
A**E
I long wished to have a handy copy of this book on my phone
It serves my purpose of carrying out a terminological book search with ease. Needless to say it is an all time classic book of TA Theory.
A**L
Great Explanation
Brilliant book very helpful for my assignments and knowledge.
M**Y
Enlightening!
A in depth read. Should have basic psychotherapy knowledge
A**N
A great book.
A great Book.
S**F
Wonderful Book of insights
I have read " Games people play" and" what do you say after you say hello" of Eric Berne and have gained a reasonable knowledge of structural and transactional analysis. This book is great for those who have a reasonable understanding about ego states. A must read.
S**E
easy to understand
I found this book easy to understand and very helpful explaining the concepts
R**F
Too many typos in the Kindle version
I found too many typos in the Kindle version. I would suggest readers to only buy the kindle version if they want to keep a reference with them on-the-go.Mind you the rating is not about the book but about the Kindle version of the book.The book, as it is, is excellent. Profound and well written.
K**N
👍😃
I am fan of TA. A Must buy. Very well written 👍😃
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