Bonnie Kaye's Straight Talk: A Collection of Her Best Newsletters About Gay Husbands

This book and Bonnie Kaye's other books, truly saved my life. After having been "married" to a gay man, and feeling something was "wrong" with me throughout the "marriage" (and for some time afterwards . . .), reading all of these stories was like a "lifeline" of light being infused into my being. During the "marriage", I always knew that something was "off" in the way of sex. But because I had such low self-esteem, I attributed it to myself. (During the marriage the "signs" had always been there, only I did not trust myself enough to believe them.) Years later, after divorcing and several enlightening experiences (which included sex with truly heterosexual men), I realized that what had been "off" in my "marriage" was *not* me, and was a result of my "husband" being truly homosexual. I craved proof but could not get it, as the person that I had "married" was in very deep denial. So I searched the web and learned of Bonnie's books. And after reading all of these stories, and seeing the astounding similarities to my own situation, I realized that I just needed to trust the power of my own intuition, and no longer doubt what my heart knew was true. I highly recommend all of Bonnie Kaye's books to any women out there who are experiencing any doubts whatsoever as to their husband's true sexual orientation. You need to know that you are *not* alone, and that whatever you are feeling in this regard, is NOT without justification.

these answered a lot of questions and confirmed many things

Funny and Sad. You have to read this book with the right frame of mind. Look for the humor in life.

For a straight wife and bi- husband that love each other and want to keep their marriage together, this book is DAMAGING to read. Bonnie is bitter from her own experience and wants to help others, but the writings are hurtful and spiteful to the gay husband. What about the turmoil and anguish the husband is going through being gay, finding out he is gay and doesn't want to be? Where is the patience and understanding a wife should have for her husband? Even if the couple does get divorced, who is the one who has to deal with the unwanted gay life? Many gay men end up not being able to accept their sexual attraction and commit suicide. We should all be more tolerant of differences. I don't recommend this book.

If you are reading this, then you probably know, or at least you probably suspect....and if you suspect, then it will be only time before you know.The path that a wife travels after discovering her husband's sexuality can feel similar to the long slow walk to the death chamber...more a dream than reality at times.And then, if you are lucky, you find Bonnie Kaye. I found her about 6 weeks after he disclosed his deepest, scariest secrets. I hugged him, supported him, loved him, honored him for who he was....yet as the stories were slowly revealed, as I realized the full impact of his 20 years of exploration (nearly all of our 27-yr marriage) I broke inside.I had forgotten about me.Then came Bonnie Kaye. In all honesty, at first I hated her. I thought she was entirely too sure he was gay, entirely too self-righteous, entirely too sure that I was not setting boundries or caring for me, entirely to sure of the outcome of my dilemma.A couple of months later, as everything she predicted became a reality and as the roller coaster ride became more intense, I leaned on that rock.The newsletters in this book were read by me, over and over again. So many stories just like mine. Finally I wasn't alone.I still have to turn to them when tricky times come along, like the holidays, when all the failed dreams seem to haunt me. I wish the pain was not still so fresh sometimes.So if you or a friend or sister or loved one is dealing with this complex human issue, please give yourself, and them, this gift. I promise you will never regret it. Maybe Bonnie's stark frankness will startle you a bit, as it did me, but if there was ever a time when a person needed a rock like Bonnie to lean on, it is when the gay spouse is discovered and life slowly unravels around you.I heartily recommend this book.Sincerely,an anonymous surviver just taking one day at a time

This book is a compilation of some of Bonnie's awesome, eye opening, sometimes mind boggling newsletters. Let me tell you something, these newsletters are a life saver. I was literally on pause until I read the newsletters that Bonnie sent me. Reading them will make you realize just how much time you have wasted trying to fix somehting that you did not break. How much time you wasted believing that you are the one with the 'problem.'Reading this book will help you realize that your "GPS", gay man posing as straight, had you fooled from day one. You will also understand that you cannot change him, but he can break you if you don't wise up soon. You can go nuts in his 'circle of crazy.'Wise up sisters because life was not meant to be this complicated and difficult...period! Bonnie Kaye's Straight Talk: A Collection of Her Best Newsletters About Gay Husbands