It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

I picked up this book after 6 months of my husbands death. It hit me so hard my entire world turned upside down, everything I knew and the life we had planned for us all gone in that one second. I was young and no one could understand my grief or relate to it. I was surrounded by so much love and support yet the hole in my heart remained open and nothing made sense. Thank you Megan for writing this book honestly and sharing your life with me, it helped me so much to understand that just like everything else in my life I can’t problem solve this. Your words have helped me to understand grief and not feel lonely and lost- THANK YOU! I needed to hear it from someone loud and clear- it’s ok you are not ok; YOU ARE NOT MEANT TO BE OK.I highly recommend this book to anyone who has lost someone, no matter which part of world you are in- no one is equipped to experience grief. This book will help navigate that.

Grief when it hits us, is a highly complex, emotional upheaval. This book is great read to understand the experiences and changes that happen in the grief period. I particularly like the coverage on the experience of heightened anxiety, because I have not read this in any of the other books on grief. There are practical suggestions provided that can help. There are patches where I felt the book gets somewhat poetic is style, but that may be soothing to some - based on how near to the time of the loss does one read this book.

My friend suddenly lost her husband to covid last year. This book has helped her in her journey through grief... She continues to read it and says that she feels "understood" in ways that many others around her may not be able to really grasp. I'm grateful for this.

I recommend this book to anyone whonis dealing with a loss or long term grief... Megan put this in such a nice way that its totally different from conventional stuff you read.. Go for it, it will really help atleast for the time you read...PS - No book can reduce the impact of loss you have.

I lost my dad very suddenly and this book played a huge part in me understanding what I was going through. So so grateful to megan for this book. truly life saving for me.

This book is more about knowing the mental condition of the person in grief.It is more about what NOT to do when one's loved ones are in grief.It is less about how to overcome grief.

It is excellent!! It has helped me so much. I recently lost my husband and this book has so much information and it really helps.

This book should be an instruction manual for Life, not only losing a loved one! The book feels so accurate in my feelings and experiences. It’s helpful and effective, even encouraging, in gaining understanding and validity, and the ability to move forward successfully. It has been the truest reflection of everything I have felt about my life and every issue I’ve been through. I’ve experienced childhood trauma, medical and emotional difficulties, and multiple family deaths, including the sudden, unexpected loss of my 54 year old husband. I’ve never found the support I truly need from family or friends, and I’ve seen poor therapists until only recently finding, through persistence, someone valid and supportive. What I’ve felt, what I’ve received as ‘support’ from people around me, the results… all of it put me in a terrible place, with me believing so much was my fault, I was a horrible person, and I could never pick up the pieces. But when you can finally feel that you are valid in your feelings and even understand those around you, you can begin to overcome; and even eventually help others overcome in their times of need. A couple times I’ve discussed with my therapist what I’m learning from the book to get her feedback and perspective, which is always positive, and also in hopes she’ll read it because anyone can gain insight from it. Quoted from the book: “Many grieving people feel like they’re on another planet, or wish they could go to one. Somewhere there are others like them. People who understand.”

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This book is simply amazing!! I highly recommend it.

This book became a safe space for me as it completely validated how I felt especially in my frustration towards the lack of support and dismissal from my social circle. I cried so much when I read the book just because I actually felt seen and heard and accepted.Like she said, "the you are not crazy, the experience is crazy".Can 100% recommend to anyone experiencing through grief and a dismissive environment at the same time, this books makes you feel safe and speaks to you emotionally.