Ignore the Guy, Get the Guy: The Art of No Contact: A Woman's Survival Guide to Mastering a Breakup and Taking Back Her Power

I honestly feel like there is an underlying message here, that can seems to take away from the recovery of the individual going through the pain of break up. That is, there is hope for the relationship. One example is, “ How to make him miss you”.I purchased this book, as my partner of 6 years ended our relationship. We were to be married in 3 months. I desperately wanted to make contact with him and reconcile our differences. But the more I idealized him, the more denial I was about the relationship. I had to accept that there was no hope in the relationship. And that includes focusing more on my self than on him, or what he feels, and wondering if he misses me. HOPE CAN BE INCREDIBLY DESTRUCTIVE FOR A BROKEN HEART. The sooner you accept there is no hope, the sooner you can heal.I understand how broken you feel when it’s over. And maybe your partner does come back. But you will be reliving the trauma again if after trying all the tips from this author doesn’t actually work. Get real with yourself, and write down all the negative things about your ex. Resist the urge to contact him. I thought that he was the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with. But he made his choice, and I’m not going to play any games with him to try to win him back. Just that fact he left a committed person like you says a lot. Someone who may be good for you may not be right for you.I’m not saying everything is this book has content which can be a form of empowerment. But from someone who felt completely shatterless and hopeless, I had to admit there was no hope for THAT relationship, and to let go of the concern about him, getting back at him and ensure he doesn’t lose interest.

I RARELY write book reviews. But this one made such an impact, I hope my review will help another woman in a similar situation.Coming from a former self proclaimed stage 5 clinger.... This book actually CHANGED me. It was the slap in the face I needed to just STOP AND PUT THE PHONE DOWN. I had no sense of dignity when he broke up with me. I was only worried about satisfying my need to communicate with him, and completely forgot how HE viewed my actions. How he was judging my desperation.If you've lost common sense over someone and don't know how to step back, THIS IS THE BOOK FOR YOU.(FYI, after following this book to the letter, he came back and finally realized what he was about to throw away. MORE IMPORTANTLY, I got some self confidence back. I was able to walk away and know I could survive whether he is in my life or not.)WHETHER YOU WANT TO GET OVER HIM, GIVE HIM SPACE, OR RECLAIM YOUR SANITY---- GET THIS BOOK

First, this book is written well and does have great advice... with one caveat: you will attract the wrong type of guy. While there is some great advice in here as far as having your own life and not letting your world revolve around your man, there are certain types of men out there who have a strong fear of commitment (avoidant attachment) and they are attracted to the types of girls who come off non-nonchalant about commitment. I speak from experience. So, be careful how you use this book and who you use it to attract. Make sure you have a clear understanding of what value your man places on commitment, because no amount of ignoring him is going to change how his mind processes attachment. It will take years of serious counseling to make that happen. ;)

After reading this book I instantly felt empowered. Why should I be crying over my ex or praying he will reconcile? He's lucky I even dated him in the first place. This book pointed out so many of his flaws. I don't even want him back now. On to a real man please!

This book sucked me in and made me realize I did everything wrong! Everything! I begged, I pleaded, I cried, I texted and texted about how I felt. The whole time he sat back and relaxed and ignored me or gave me a two word response. Not anymore. After reading this book and looking back, I'm not even sure I want him back in my life now! That is how good this book is. I had standards before him and now I have standards again! Going to read it over and over to remind myself of who I am and that I deserve someone that wants me, not wants me to belittle myself. Definitely a great read for those sitting and crying!

At first, I started reading the book and thought it seemed alright - nothing groundbreaking in it though.All of it was pretty much common sense and I didn't learn much from it. Basically, the same message phrased in various ways and contexts, were repeated - and the message was also in the book title. i.e. "...No Contact..." for a man after a man breaks up with you and then he will be interested after about 8 weeks if you leave him alone apparently, if you do want him back. If I'm really honest, I found it boring after a while.I continued to read the book though, as it had received such good reviews, overall, and that is why I had decided to purchase it. I thought it would be a valuable addition to my book collection that I could refer back to if need be. I can honestly say that I won't be keeping it, as it was so repetitive with stating the same point, in different wording. I didn't feel as though I had benefited from reading it all the way through. I wanted to put the book down shortly after I started it and had noticed a possible theme of repetition near the beginning of the book, but the only reason I read it all the way through was because I had bought it. Had it been a library book, I don't think I would have done so.It is probably a valuable book for a female that has just had her first break up and is at the start of her dating life, so to speak, and I don't mean this in any way as condescending, but there are certain things that you realize on your own, about men as you go through life in everyday situations and as I say, I found nothing in the book that bowled me over with that "Eureka!" feeling as I was reading it.

Great book. Really was helpful to me I am glad I read it . I would highly recommend it to anyone that is going through a breakup or wants to get back their self control, self love and self worth.

It is time to take control of your life and banish the unhappiness and sorrow that descended upon your heart when he, left you. This book shows you how to get your life back on track, what mistakes to avoid and how to become that confident woman you once were, or have always wanted to be, the one that most men admire. If however, he still shows no signs of returning back to you, then walk away, he is not worth it.

brilliant book brilliant thinking also us women and our self esteem/ but it doesn't stop us being who we really are I realize I have my power / and not get caught up in all the drama... my inner light keeps me safe from negative thinking/ I am a strong woman/ the writing in this book confirms this.. I just needed too see it in print ..xgx

This book really helped me. It’s funny and upbeat. It’s stops you turning into the mad ex and how to focus on you. I’ve done the no contact bit & it made me realise that he never loved me like he said he did & is a total coward!