How To Annihilate A Narcissist: In The Family Court Paperback – September 14, 2019

I'm a woman who has been dealing with a narcissistic ex for 10 years. I wish I'd had this book 10 years ago. Although the author is specifically discussing her experience in Scottish courts, it isn't difficult to take her main points and apply them to a family court situation in any country. The courts are going to care about the child's best interests. They don't care about a parent's narcissistic injury. Good to keep that in mind.I'm presently preparing for a custody hearing in the USA. This is a short read: took me maybe an hour max to go through with a highlighter. While I believe I have learned most of these lessons on my own, this gave some excellent practical examples. I HAVE gathered evidence for 10 years, and this gives me even more confidence in preparing my documentation for my case.I'm seeing some men writing negative reviews because the author assumes the "he" pronoun for the narcissist and "she" for the empath. The author explains this choice on Page 3. I would suggest that as much as this may be bothersome to a male reader, don't throw the baby out with the bathwater! There are a lot of good suggestions. (I got a lot of support years ago on a website written for men with narcissistic ex-wives. I understood how to read the material, switching pronouns to apply to my own situation.)I personally don't like the word Empath. And I find the spelling of "behaviour" irritating. OH WELL. The info in the book is very good! :)I bought the paperback. If I had it to do over, I would have gotten the Kindle.I appreciate that the author is sharing some really helpful information... encouraging me to do what is best for my child by gathering evidence to support my position.From across the pond, THANK YOU, Rachel Watson.

I wish I found this earlier on in my separation and divorce process! I recommend to anyone in an antagonistic dynamic.

I took a lot of notes while reading this book. I am currently in year 10 of my battle with my narcissist. The one thing I would say when writing a book like this is be careful of pronouns. Men can be the empath just a easily as a woman can. I had to constantly, mentally, replace he with she. I do, however, really appreciate your insights and your courage to share your story.

I wish I read this book several months ago.Excellent, excellent insight.Quick read. Couple hours.I cannot recommend it enough.Thank you Rachel Watson.

Book offers some decent info in regards to the Scottish family courts. Written from the perspective of a female. As an adult female who suffered as a child at the hands of a narcissistic mother, a lot of these books call into question the issue of ‘projection’, which is a trademark trait of narcissists, as it seems most of the books about narcissistic abuse in partnerships and custody battles are written by females. It’s incredibly common for true narcissists to project their traits onto others and call other people narcissists.Statistics seem to show a higher percentage of males as the narcissistic perpetrator but I would question the validity of those statistics as the true narcissists are very skilled at avoiding detection and at projection and manipulation, even fooling so-called professionals. Narcissists will do anything and everything to make themselves look good and paint themselves as the victims. And narcissists are the ones who usually speak out the loudest and always try to preemptively get in front of situations, paving the way to make the other person look bad and to paint themselves in the most positive of lights.

The author is not from the USA, so some of the family court processes are different. Doesn’t really matter as the advice and proper expectation setting is useful. While you cannot out manipulate a narcissist, this book gives tangible information on what to do and where to place your focus.

This book is a must read for parents, attorneys, therapists, or anyone trying to help someone through this painstaking process. Quick and direct invaluable information! As an “empath” lol I want to give the author a giant thank you hug.

I saw a ton of reviews recommending this book and it had a great rating, so I was excited to get the book. I received the book this evening and read it cover to cover in less than an hour. To be completely honest, there wasn’t a single thing in the book that I didn’t already learn during my divorce and from my attorney. I also feel like the book makes it sound like you “win” in court and it’s over- that has not been my experience. I guess I was looking for more practical advice on managing my ex long term. This would be more geared to someone just beginning their journey and separating. I would not purchase if I would’ve know it lacked a lot of substance.

So, here's the thing, if you bought the book for the upper-hand in court you're probably the narcissistic parent.It's accurate and eye-opening, indeed it strikes a chord for anyone experiencing this kind of behaviour, but most importantly shares useful pointers and guidance from the writers experience.As a man who found the book thoroughly helpful and informative it's difficult to see why some male reviewers have taken such offence to the content beyond feeling threatened or challenged by its accuracy. The book certainly helps understand not just the behaviour of the abuser, but also the need to resist being drawn into negative behaviours as the victims.At no time does the writer imply that domestic violence and narcissism is always the fault of the male involved, the book is simply written from the writers own perspective. Perhaps some of our more 'triggered' reviewers should write one themselves?Given the well documented failures of child services, CAFCASS and the family court, the increasing history of CPS failure to prosecute control and coercion despite the changes to the law, the inability of the family court system to spot vexatious and malicious litigation as a means to further the control of vengeful exes, the book is a useful insight into how someone else has managed, coped and overcome many of the issues we face as the parent on the receiving end.An excellent read. I'd add that it should be mandatory for social workers, so blind to narcissism and so easily groomed, who dismiss valid concerns as tit-for-tat and criticise parents while sitting on the fence and failing to support victims, both parent and children, from the inherent dangers of the abusive and controlling parent who, all too often, is focused on 'winning at [insert child here]' and dominating their victim through alienation, playing the victim and seeking conflict at every turn rather than the actual 'best interests' of their child.

This book describes exactly what I have been dealing with. I was accused of alienating my children from their father, but in turn I was just trying to keep everyone safe. Trying to maintain healthy relationships. And it backfired. His abuse of me and the kids led to misleading the courts and therapists he was sincere. If he cared, he would let me see my kids and he is refusing. The book is very nicely written, easy to read but very informative. I highly recommend for anyone even if you arent at this point yet. Try to avoid this point...and read this book for help.

I am already applying this knowledge and it has helped a lot!!! I am going to trial and this is helping me arm myself and feel more confident going in the correct things to say and do

This book has given me insight, confidence, understanding and relief. It reminds me of the truth of who I am and how to handle the ever present narcissist. There's a lot of practical advice, important reminders, scarily accurate descriptions of behaviours, and much more. The only bad thing about this book is that it needed to be written at all, and that so many of us need to read it. Thank you Rachel Watson for letting me learn through the pain you've had to endure, and thank you for being brave enough to write it down.