The Other Woman's Affair: Gambling Your Heart & Reclaiming Your Life When Your Partner is Married. Paperback – 1 May 2016

Compassionate and understanding of your situation. This book won’t criticize you, will be practical and consider all the possibilities and options helping you understand your situation. It helped me Understand the dynamics at play, take an informed life decision and take control of my life in a situation were before the book I thought I had no information and no control and was kind of sticking my head in quicksand. The lessons on the book are useful in many other situations than being “the other woman”. Highly recommended if you feel u have no control of your own life and future. This book saved me of a lot of suffering. Highly recommended.

I have been in a relationship with a married man for the past year and a half. I've gotten up to Chapter 5 and I already feel as though not only the authors know me but respect me....and they really know what I am dealing with here. It's tough but this book is giving me hope and I actually feel like I'm started to deal with it and figure it out. I will write another review when I've finished the book but I felt the need to say that I finally feel like someone "gets it."

Often maligned, seldom understood, the “Other Woman” has historically received scant support for her precarious position within an extramarital relationship. She is the home-wrecker, the slut, and a whole host of other derogatory terms. Rarely is the married male lover excoriated as harshly, which says a lot about the stinky double standards applied to women to this day. Whilst the shelves in bookstores are overburdened with self-help books, often brimming with sanctimonious nonsense, for repairing marriages marred by infidelity, the “Other Woman”, who is often left to pick up the pieces after her lover decides to return to his wife, has no such resource—until now. The Other Woman’s Affair—Gambling Your Heart And Reclaiming Your Life When Your Partner Is Married, by Paul DePompo, Psy.D., ABPP & Misa Butsuhara, LMFT, fills this void nicely. It is explicitly designed to help women navigate the rocky shoals of a relationship with a married man. Right off the bat, I was impressed with the compassionate approach the authors’ took to this difficult subject. No preaching or finger wagging here. Instead the pages are filled with useful coping strategies for la maîtresse. The authors interviewed dozens of women in relationships with married men in order to understand their experience, and it really shows. I hesitate to call this a self-help book. Rather, it is a well thought out sophisticated program designed to help women to either increase the likelihood of the relationship working or to recognize that it’s high time to cut bait and move on to friendlier waters. If you’re a woman dating a married Mr. Right, this is the book for you. At the risk of being fatuous, I would also add that the man in an extramarital relationship would also benefit from a close reading of this book. At the very least, he’d gain some valuable insights into the emotional challenges and turmoil faced by his lover. And what would be the harm in that?J. Dharma WindhamAuthor: I, Nemo

This book is like meeting with a personal counselor who doesn't shame you. It offers practical tips useful for controlling shame and anxiety in any situation. It doesn't judge. It helps make yourself a priority again. It helps you figure out what you want to do next. Easy to read. So glad I found this book. Thank you for writing it.

A discovery that your boyfriend is married - and that the situation at his home is not what you thought it was is a terrible experience. If you are ready to STOP being a "secret"... Yet want this to all work out this book is your best chance... It is hard to know who to turn to for support and advice when everyone is saying to just leave him. It can make you feel like an idiot when you know there is same thing special there. This book has being and is a key part of my understanding for our relationship and the relationship as we attempt to pull through and make it work... At the same time it is invaluable in making sure I am talking care of my goals and values and it helps to develops solid plan for ME with Hope regardless.This book is clear and illustrates an understanding of both partners while holding the married partner accountable... All without invoking judgment, guilt, anger or shame. The steps to develop my plan, make smart choices and understandings what's really happening were specially helpful in this book.If you are in a relationship with someone who is not available help yourself first by reading this book...I have read this book several times and get more out of it on each read.