You Will Find Your People: How to Finally Make the Friendships You Deserve

Initially I was skeptical and thought this would be a slow burn that would take me a month or two to thumb through. Oh boy was I wrong!Moore’s sharp writing style which jumps from painfully funny humor to heartfelt insights about the human condition hooked me and kept me consuming chapter after chapter in just a few hours.What I loved most about the book was its ability to accurately portray the complexity of forming deep bonds with other people. While often depicted in media as a sorting hat kind of ceremony you do once as a child and then again as young adult, Moore brings that idea into question over and over again, begging the reader to reconsider the evolving nature of friendship - moments it sprouts, upgrades, and occasionally unravels.When I started the book, I was hoping to come away with a perfect formula on how to form deeper bonds. Instead I found myself throughout the book in a reflective state through Moore’s own lived experience asking myself how to better understand my own lived experiences and how to communicate better with other people to understand each others wants and needs.As someone who has struggled with developing and maintaining healthy relationships throughout my life, this book brought me immense joy in knowing I wasn’t alone. It rekindled my belief in the moments of genuine friendship that have brought me so much joy. It also validated the idea all friendships matter, whether they be decades long or a few hours in the making.You Will Find Your People creates a sense of hope and wonder for people wanting to create stronger relationships. Whether you’ve struggled with forming bonds with friends or just want to deepen bonds, this light hearted read gets your thinking about connection and people. It’s not formulaic - it is often an unhinged diary from Moore, or easy but everyone who is willing to put in the work and effort deserves friendship.

Moore's previous book, How To Be Alone, sounds like a self-help, but is actually a memoir about growing up without family, connections, and the difficulties of that. I got it on a whim and was blindsided by how much I loved it. This one, though, is titled as a self help, but it actually IS a self-help. And I don't think that's a great thing. Might lead to a lot of confusion and disappointment from previous readers.I think it's good that this book exists. I think these are important things to think about and know and feel. For me, it just came a little too late after learning about all these things the hard way in my 20s. I think it's great that this book is here for those who haven't been learned these things and can learn them in kinder ways.However, I don't think it's always...well done? It reads like a lot of reguritated therapy, which is fine, but it does get boring and repetitive, and gets stuck in "your feelings are valid!" For me personally, I'm far beyond that in my self growth journey, and too much generic "you're so valid!" talk is annoying after a while. It was just a little too heavy handed on that and made me want something deeper from the text. Also, there are a lot of anxieties that I think Lane Moore still carries (don't we all?) but passes some of them off as quirky or normal, but I really disagree. And I worry that, if you can't or don't pick that out as the reader, it might cause problems in digesting the content.Additionally, I 1.) really wanted/needed more personal stories to tie the concepts together 2.) Needed the pacing to be smoother. I think the beginning half takes SO long hyping the reader up to make sure they feel respected and valid, but the actual messier topics come in at the last 100 pages, and those are the topics that feel like they needed more than three pages per chapter. The early chapters go on for 12 or so pages but the more complex things that, I'd say, need to be talked about more begin and end in the turn of a single page or two. It was a let down.Things I did like:Moore's writing is always enjoyable, engaging, and fun. It's super easy reading and feels like talking to a friend (or therapist). The topic is important and something I'm glad is getting more traction. Friendship breakups are beyond painful and not normalized, and they need to be. I like that this book discussed the many aspects of friendships because it isn't always simple. The personal stories sprinkled in really drive the point that Moore has experienced what she's talking about, and it really broke up the therapy-talk style. It's a short, fast read, which I also liked. Made it very bite sized and easy to think about.

Lane Moore is an excellent storyteller and comfortingly relatable. Easy to read- will cause laughter, tears, and hope <3

Author already has relationships but works through understanding them. Does not talk about finding people with whom you could have lasting friendships as an adult . As self help books go, fairly useless

Good book 📖