The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times (Deckled Edge)

Can this book about disciplined Buddhist training for an enlightened heart help us face this scary time, fearlessly?A BOOK FOR THE SEEKER-WARRIORThe Places That Scare You begins with a description of bodhichitta, which basically means “enlightened heart or mind.” Ms. Chodron tells us that achieving this enlightened heart is the work of seekers training with the discipline of warriors. Such seekers are called, bodhisattvas, and what they are questing for is described in this book by connected essays based on Buddhist concepts.Among these concepts, meditation is emphasized as a primary technique in bodhichitta training—staying still and observing. Another technique is reciting the slogans, chants, and aspirations of Buddhism, and a selection of them is included in the appendix.On the way to that appendix, other concepts are described that build the foundation of bodhichitta. Among them are Tonglen (a method for developing compassion), four qualities to develop and so oppose suffering and bad habits, how to develop forgiveness, patterns of laziness to avoid, the value of embracing groundlessness, how to find and appreciate a spiritual teacher, and why the “In-Between State” should be our goal.All of this is well-written by Ms. Chodron, maybe even deceptively so. You can read this book quickly (it’s only 145 pages), but really understanding the material it presents requires more care. I found my inspiration from it on my second reading.READ MINDFULLY FOR MAXIMUM INSPIRATIONAnd I have read a lot of Buddhist literature. It’s books often have promising titles along the lines of: Guide to Fearlessness, Universal Compassion, Living Meaningfully, How to Overcome Our Human Problems, Mindful Steps to Happiness, and such. Their content can, however, seem disconnected from the title’s promise with the prose seemingly simplistic or else hopelessly complicated with eastern mythology. Pema Chodron’s gift is to get beyond these difficulties and communicate Buddhist concepts in a way that is accessible for the interested reader.In my first reading of The Places That Scare You, I couldn’t see the relation of the text to the title. It didn’t seem to me that the chapter-essays provided any kind of guide to living fearlessly, and I thought the “warrior” idiom was a bit forced. A more thoughtful second reading, however, changed my mind.The “guide” part of the book is in taking the reader to an understanding of bodhichitta (the enlightened heart). Each chapter is an examination of reality and how to relate to it through Buddhist teachings. As the seeker gains greater understanding of bodhichitta he/she becomes a bodhisattva, and so develops a fearless strength. This fearlessness allows him/her to enter scary places and learn from them.A READABLE INTERPRETATION OF ANCIENT TEXTSThe Places That Scare You is very readable, but even so, the depth of the material requires some effort from the reader to grasp. This makes just reading the book a virtuous endeavor if your purpose is to find enlightenment and inspiration. The chapters (twenty-two of them plus an appendix) build upon one-another to bring the reader to an understanding of bodhichitta, maitri, and prajnaparamita (defined in the text). Then the appendix provides material to support a regular practice to integrate the concepts covered.There are a lot of quotes from Buddhist texts, as well as traditional Buddhist stories to illustrate points (such as the story of Avalokiteshvara expounding on “Groundlessness” to a group of Buddha’s disciples). You can see a difference in tone between the quoted ancient texts and Ms. Chodron’s prose, which is modern. I think this is one reason her books are so popular. She puts Buddhist concepts in contemporary language. Some Buddhist literature written by Tibetan masters, say, tend to sound like the ancient texts and so can be challenging for modern readers.This book also contains a number of terms that could be considered “technical” in Buddhism. These include bodhichitta, bodhisattva, maitri, and prajnaparamita. These terms are explained well, but may be a problem for some non-Buddhist readers. I think it is worth your while to integrate an understanding of these terms. It will enhance your understanding of the book and the material in the appendix.The above might be considered both pros and cons, which is probably appropriate for a book about Buddhism.A BOOK TO HELP IN SCARY TIMESThere is much about this time in the world that does frighten me, prompting me to seek some kind of spiritual fortitude to help face it. I have noted many people in social media expressing distress over current events and how their traditional Christian faith is their comfort. That’s how scary our place in history is. Personally, I can relate more to a book like this as a spiritual buttress against fear. And so I found much inspiration in The Places That Scare You.In this time, we are under a constant barrage of fear porn from politicians and mainstream media. Especially since January of 2020, the efforts of our rulers have ramped up to keep us divided, afraid, and thus vulnerable to their machinations meant to increase the magnitude of their tyranny. In my opinion, we must resist. But our resistance must be wise, built upon the truths found and revealed by enlightened teachers over all of human history. Bodhichitta embodies such enlightened truth that can make us bodhisattvas, strong and fearless in opposing evil. I recommend The Places That Scare You as a training guide to help get you there.

My natural reaction to anything remotely uncomfortable or scary is usually a strategic retreat. My internal dialogue goes something like, "Nope, don't like that feeling, let's distract ourselves immediately!" So, the title The Places That Scare You was both intriguing and, well, a little bit scary itself.Pema Chödrön, with her incredible wisdom and gentle directness, doesn't tell you to conquer your fears like a warrior. Instead, she offers a radical and compassionate approach: lean into them. Use those difficult moments, those "scary places," as opportunities to soften, to open your heart, and to cultivate kindness – for yourself and others.Reading this book felt like being given permission to be human. It's not about being fearless in the sense of having no fear, but about developing fearlessness in how you relate to fear. She beautifully unmasks the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways our ego tries to build walls and resist the messy, unpredictable nature of life.It's a book I find myself returning to again and again, especially when things get tough. Her words are a soothing balm and a firm hand, guiding you back to presence and away from the urge to flee. It's grounded in Buddhist teachings, but the insights are universal and applicable to anyone navigating the ups and downs of existence.If you're tired of running from discomfort and are ready to explore a path towards genuine resilience and compassion, The Places That Scare You is an absolute gift. It's a profound and practical guide to befriending your own experience, even the parts that feel scary. Highly, highly recommended for anyone seeking a little more grace and courage in their lives.

For me, would like a little more depth. It's a very good overview of Buddhist practice and philosophy but I guess I lean a little more to where Buddhist practice intersects with western psychology. Often prefer Buddhist books where the nuts and bolts of the practice is applied to everyday life. Her books often seem flowery and one step removed but she's always has some great wisdom to share..